Comments for Sleeping On The Couch Tonight

Comment on Chubby. by John

John — Tue, 20 May 2008 17:08:33 +0000

Here’s the correct answer to, “Does this make me look fat?”
“Honey, that outfit just doesn’t flatter your figure the way it should.”
This way, you are making an intelligent response. Blame the clothes, not her figure. Then, the next time your in the hardware store with her, pick up a hammer, hold it close to your waist and ask her, “Honey, does this hammer make me look fat?” Assuming, she has a sense of humor. Good Luck!

Comment on Chubby. by tom

tom — Sat, 17 May 2008 02:28:49 +0000

Dude, first off, how long have you been seeing this spawn of satan? There are MILLIONS of girls out there just waiting for a semi-nice guy that won’t cheat, lie, or steal from them. About 30% of them aren’t completely nuts. I would suggest you dump her and start looking for a normal girl.
I too found myself with this type of woman and after a few months I took this first opportunity offered to get out, and quickly started dating that “hottie from the office”. We’ve been married for over 5 years now, have 2 great kids, and I couldn’t be happier. Sometimes you have to STAND UP for yourself, you are a man, right?

Comment on Is she Hot? by Chris

Chris — Fri, 16 May 2008 23:44:56 +0000

My boyfriend & I are both attracted to other women. This worries him now and then, as I being female check out other females with him and say”Man, she’s hot…” Its fun and we are honest with each other.

Comment on Chubby. by Jim

Jim — Fri, 16 May 2008 05:13:08 +0000

Look at your last sentence: “Why do women…?”

Guy, your problem is you aren’t dealing with a woman. You are dealing with an immature female, a female with the mentality of a child.

Also, let me warn you that a lot of women never get past this stage and actually grow up. I speak with over 40 years of experience. I’ve had some of the fattest ugliest girlfriends in the world who in their 40’s and even 50’s still wanted their guy to tell them how beautiful they are. They just don’t want to face reality. They want to live in a fantasy.

It can get rather tricky too. Some females can be very mature in many ways, but still cling to a childish mentality in other ways.

As far as I’m concerned, no one has truly grown up and matured until they can face and accept reality all the time, even when it’s extremely painful.

This isn’t to say that there aren’t some really decent mature women out there. But if you go looking for another female, I recommend you place an emphasis on their ability to face reality. They’re the ones that last a life time. The ones that are into fantasy are the ones that fall by the wayside. You just can’t get a relationship to work with them no matter how hard you try.

Other than that, I’d like to compliment everyone who posted a comment here. The comments are some of the most thoughtful I’ve read on the internet.

Comment on Chubby. by Mattyd

Mattyd — Thu, 15 May 2008 11:18:07 +0000

Ahh the conundrum of the female. They want honesty but they want only the good stuff and not the natural truth. Sometimes it seems like women intentionally provoke the fight. Silence to her questions you say? St. Thomas Moore learned the hard way, silence means acceptance.
How about when she asks “Does she look good?” and I say yes, then the next statement is “She looks better than me doesn’t she?” and my next answer is ” Who do I kiss and hug and do things to I wouldn’t do to a farm animal?” and she smiles all happy.
I’m fat, short with a size 6 shoe, thats the natural truth

Comment on Chubby. by Richard

Richard — Thu, 15 May 2008 07:13:33 +0000

When women ask those ‘impossible questions,’ i found being somewhat honest w/ them is the best way… however you don’t always have to be as blunt as, “That makes you look fat.” Try to either suggest another color (black is slimming, shades of red bring out curves, white shows bulges) or perhaps another garment made from a tougher material or with a different cut.

If you don’t feel comfortable with that approach, try something off the wall like.. the dress doesn’t match your shoes, or, “Red just isn’t your color.” or something else along those lines.

Of course…you could always just say, “You look beautiful.” I mean… no one can argue with your perceptions. If she insists she looks fat.. pleading the 5th wouldn’t hurt.

Comment on Is she Hot? by Richard

Richard — Thu, 15 May 2008 07:06:52 +0000

You both should ask yourself something…”Was this worth the aggravation?” Some fights/arguments between significant others often are meaningless.. The strength of the relationship will be reflected by how it was handled. Hopefully you were joking when you mentioned about going back in to ask for her number… I don’t wearing your drink is going to help you any.

Comment on Is she Hot? by Mark

Mark — Thu, 15 May 2008 01:37:50 +0000

in response to Lisa’s reply,

It is great to hear that you can see when a guy is criticizing for your own good, many girls dont feel comfortable and over react to our comments, i personally have had issues with my girlfriend by being honest. so now i have to watch what i say to avoid an argument. i am not downplaying my girlfriend or any other girl but the truth is that most girls dont always want to hear the truth as it is.

Comment on Chubby. by Dee

Dee — Wed, 14 May 2008 14:26:23 +0000

I think the proper thing to say should have been something constructive rather than critical, and “chubby” is critical in any woman’s eyes.

“You aren’t fat and you look good in the dress” should have been replaced by something slightly more truthful, but gentle, and hinting at the possibility of improving oneself. “It looks great, but it would look even better if we worked off a little of this (touches hips) at the gym.” An alternative would be (and this is if the dress truly makes the girlfriend look fat) “I don’t think this style suits you” (bonus points for the fashion advice!)

Comment on Is she Hot? by Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 14 May 2008 12:27:28 +0000

In response to the question of “Does this make me look fat?” I happen to be a BBW and have a wonderful fience who tells me like it is and loves me just the way I am. I would rather have him or my son (he’s 15) tell me that I look awful in something than tell me I look good in it and think i look great, buy it, wear it and get strange looks from people in the range of “what was she thinking when she bought that??? what? what the mirror broken??” Or have a g/f tell me it looks terrible.

As far as him looking at other women…chill out ladies it is built in in men, deal with it. If you are secure in your relationship his “roving” eye should have no affect on you. My guy points out pretty women all the time, I look, usually agree then move on.